Starting therapy can be daunting, and this is often especially true when the issues you want to work on are as intimate, vulnerable, and important as sexual concerns. It can be scary to bring these issues up with a therapist, and it is normal to have questions like “Will I be judged?”, “Will this be embarrassing, or will I embarrass the therapist?” And “How will I even find the words to talk about this thing I’m experiencing with a professional?”
Sex therapy, like all therapy, can certainly have moments that feel a little awkward, funny, or vulnerable, but it is also supportive, sex positive, and safe. This is one of my clinical specialities, and you can rest assured that I’ve heard it all, and you don’t have to worry that I’ll be shocked or uncomfortable with what you’re sharing. You can use whatever language feels right to you, and you get to share at a pace that feels safe.
Sometimes people wonder what exactly sex therapy entails, and I like to say that, with the sound off, it would look a whole lot like any other therapy session. We discuss and explore the issues that are most relevant to you, and our conversation often includes relevant education, and homework for you that is more hands on.
Some of the issues that often come up in sex therapy include issues of sexual desire or “libido”, changes or concerns about sexual functioning or genital response, exploration of kinks, passions, BDSM interests, changes in relationship constellations, and partner communication and negotiation in the sexual realm. This list isn’t exhaustive, and if you’re wondering if I feel comfortable working with the issue you want to work on, just ask!